Election Day has come and gone in America. I have to say, I was VERY nervous about the outcome of the 2012 Presidential Election. Too many of my intelligent friends were blinded by the lies and hatred spewed by one of the candidates. I was worried that my list of friends could possibly reflect the popular and electoral votes. Oddly enough, it did to a point. Just enough that we still came out with a victory.
I had so many things riding on this election: my reproductive rights, my right to equal pay and employment, marriage equality, my right to healthcare... The list could go on and on. I remember the last few elections. I really didn't have much stake in them. The last one was the first I could vote in, and honestly I just didn't want the man who was originally W's running mate to win. It would have been four more years of the same policies that started the whole mess we've been in.
This time, however, was completely different. I actually had to consider what the repercussions would be if Romney were to be elected. The thoughts that came to mind made me sick with worry and brought tears to my eyes. What if my brother could never have the chance to get married? What if I lost my health insurance and was denied coverage due to my preexisting conditions? Or I hit my lifetime cap because of my migraine and spinal treatments long before things (pain, weakness, etc) became manageable again? What if I was not allowed to get a loan or financial aide to complete my education? What if my grandmother was forced to get her medicare with a voucher? It all hit me when the first few states were being projected in the exit polls.
I tried not to pay attention, I really did. I couldn't help it though. I had so many fears and hopes riding on this one. I was trying my hardest not to cry or yell at someone while working. Thankfully, I was sent home early and was able to watch at a friend's house with others like me.
You have no idea how overjoyed I was to see Akin and Murdock lose their elections. Just hearing the definition of "legitimate rape" made me violently, physically ill. So many of their "qualifications" of "illegitimate" rape hit home with my attack, that just thinking about it now it is difficult not to break down. To hear someone say that I was not attacked, that I should have no rights made me ashamed to say I was a citizen of the same country. And when someone says that a woman's body will "shut down" any pregnancy that happens due to "legitimate" rape, makes me realize how ignorant and uneducated some of those we elect to office really are.
My state ballot didn't go well at all. We did away with Affirmative Action, which is ridiculous. We also did away with the state Department of Human Services (some think it just restructures it, but if you read, it does away with it unless the governor decides to put something in its place). Both of these issues are vital; especially when people all over the country are still making racial comments and slurs against our President, of all people. If we can't respect the highest position in the country, how can you think we will respect other minorities and/or women in every day situations? How can you do away with something to help our children? Yes, it needs restructuring, however, doing away with it is not the answer. We did keep our state Supreme Court seats. It was nice to learn that those who helped to shoot down the Personhood Bill were kept in their positions.
When the numbers came in for the Presidential election, I finally started to breathe again. I was overjoyed. My life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness were not going to be infringed upon! I was completely surprised to see Faux News reporting it before CNN. To see them conceding was a huge victory, in my mind.
The best feeling, however, was watching Obama's victory speech. I was in awe. I was sitting next to the boy, with my hand in his, with the biggest smile on my face and tears running down my cheeks. To know that we did this. We as a country could come together like this and preserve our rights as individual citizens astounded me. I have never been so proud to be an American.
I'm still shaky. I'm overjoyed. I'm safe.
Thank you to all who voted, no matter who or what you voted for. That is what makes our country great. Thank you to all who campaigned in whatever way they could for their chosen candidate.
I am off to catch up on some mindless television and fall asleep in my love's arms.
Have a wonderful night!!
Love!!
Wednesday, November 7, 2012
Wednesday, August 29, 2012
What have they become?
With the Republican National Convention underway, I can't help but throw a bit of a bitch fit. Republicans today do not stand for what the party was originally founded to support. The things they are pushing for today, are completely the opposite as why as a young, naive 18 year old I registered as a Republican (shocker huh? Me, a registered republican?) So, what do Republicans stand for? I'll tell you.
Originally, Democrats and Republicans were one party-the Democratic Republicans. This was the 1800s, before the Civil War. They wanted small government and a small, agriculture and industrial nation. It was the Federalists that wanted stronger government and a national economy. It wasn't until the 1850s that the Republican party was created from the Whigs and abolitionists.
Before the Civil War, it was the Democrats who were predominate in the South. They wanted to maintain states' rights and, in effect, continue slavery. They hated the Bank of the U.S. (which hasn't really changed) and subscribed to other Jacksonian ideals. The Republicans were the progressive party. Lincoln himself was a Republican. They opposed the repeal of the Missouri Compromise and the extension of slavery, as well as being openly against the decision in the Dred Scott Case.
In 1860, the Republican platform included a call for a high protective tariff (or tax), free homesteads, and a transcontinental railroad. With Lincoln as their nominee, they won the election and freed the slaves. Lincoln himself created several government agencies: Department of Agriculture, Bureau of Internal Revenue, and the national banking system. He passed the Homestead Act, because he understtod the "importance of... having a piece of land to call your own." He passed the Land Grant College Act, which created universities throughout the country by donating land for agricultural and technical colleges to the states.
Republicans passed the Civil Rights Act of 1866, passed the 14th Amendment in 1868, passed the National Eight Hour Law (which while only limited government workers to 8 hour work days, set a precedent for all workers), passed the 15th Amendment in 1870 (which guarantees voting rights to all citizens of age), authorized equal pay for female government employees in 1872, the Pendleton Act in 1883 (which required at least 10% of the bureaucracy to be a professional workforce and created the Civil Service Commission), and in 1890 passed the Sherman Anti-Trust Act. Later Roosevelt, a Republican, used this act to break up several large monopolies.
Roosevelt did several things today's Republicans would find appalling. He became involved with foreign policy by supporting the creation of the Panama Canal. He negotiated the Treaty of Portsmouth, ending the conflict between Japan and Russia. In 1906, he passed laws concerning safe food and meat production. Later, he began naming forests as federal reserves and created the Department of Labor.
In 1919, the Republican party successfully passed the 19th Amendment giving women the right to vote. The first woman elected to Congress was a Montana Republican in 1917.
In the 1920s, the party ran on platform opposing the League of Nations, high tariffs, and promoting business interests. These low tariffs and business policies led to great prosperity until 1929 when Wall Street crashed. The hands off approach by the party led to FDR being elected in 1932. I n 1940, they became them first major political party to support and endorse and equal rights amendment for women. When Eisenhower was elected he created the Interstate Highway System and continued American space exploration, as well as creating the Department of Health, Education, and Welfare, the Civil Rights Commission and the civil rights division in the Justice Department. These led to the Civil Rights Act of 1957, which kept the government from interfering with blacks wanting to vote.
The first mention of bipartisan effort in any of my research was when the parties joined together on foreign policy after the Republican support for the nation's war effort (began by the Democrats). In fact, it was the Republicans that were usually against the wars the US fought.
It wasn't until Nixon was elected in 1968 that the Republican party began believing that America had the best form of government. It was then that the country began having a larger role in world politics and promoting the values of the country. He reopened relations with China, helping with globalization, ended the country's involvement in the Vietnam War, signed arms control treaties, promoted our manned space program, brought inflation under control by implementing the traditional Republican policy of fiscal control and by cutting the dollar loose from the gold standard, and helped to pass the Clean Air Act.
Reagan followed. He increased military spending and had the largest peacetime military buildup in US history. However, his revamping of the tax code exempted million of those with low incomes and eliminated many deductions. He had the Iran-contra affair to mar his record, where the US sent arms to Iran without Congressional approval and to Nicaraguan guerrillas.
Bush Sr., supported free trade, Middle East peace, and NATO.
What has the Republican party become? They supported W. when he invaded Iraq on a lie of nuclear weapons. Granted I understand we had been attacked, but because he couldn't figure out who did it he fabricated a report. Yet many still think he was in the right. He created tax cuts that left the lower and middle classes to pay for the functionings of our government. This led to over $3 trillion in debt. Something that was almost unheard of in the Republican party before.
Once they supported civil and individual rights. Now they want to deny gays the right to marry.
They once respected the Constitution and, therefore, the separation of church and state as that is created by the Constitution. Now they want to impose Christian values on all of those in this country and create laws that reflect this, when the Constitution states that the government cannot do so.
They have always wanted small government and less government regulation in our lives. But by passing laws on marriage, "legitimate" rape, and other similar things creates more regulations and more of the government "butting into our lives."
Before they supported helping the middle and lower classes with tax cuts and the Homestead Act, now they rally for corporate and wealthy tax cuts as well as not helping the homeless or unemployed.
They stood for education at one point; they actually created many of the universities around the country. Now they want to stop funding education and helping students afford education beyond the secondary level.
They have always supported businesses but not to the extent of putting them over their constituents. With corporate tax cuts, out sourcing, and the like they are hurting our economy, putting us out of work, and creating wider gaps between economic classes.
These are all stances held by Mitt Romney and Paul Ryan. Please consider who you support and what they stand for before you vote this November. Do your homework. Realize these policies are not helping our country, but hurting it. We are becoming a nation that discriminates based on religion, sex, sexuality, and tax bracket.
The Democrats are not perfect, not by a long shot, but they are not trying to take away the things they gave you. Republicans are backing out of so many things they promised with the laws they passed in our country's history and are now passing laws that will in effect repeal or block them.
Sources:
http://voices.yahoo.com/historical-outline-american-political-parties-16427.html
http://www.infoplease.com/ce6/history/A0860701.html
http://www.nfrw.org/republicans/history.htm#LINCOLN
Originally, Democrats and Republicans were one party-the Democratic Republicans. This was the 1800s, before the Civil War. They wanted small government and a small, agriculture and industrial nation. It was the Federalists that wanted stronger government and a national economy. It wasn't until the 1850s that the Republican party was created from the Whigs and abolitionists.
Before the Civil War, it was the Democrats who were predominate in the South. They wanted to maintain states' rights and, in effect, continue slavery. They hated the Bank of the U.S. (which hasn't really changed) and subscribed to other Jacksonian ideals. The Republicans were the progressive party. Lincoln himself was a Republican. They opposed the repeal of the Missouri Compromise and the extension of slavery, as well as being openly against the decision in the Dred Scott Case.
In 1860, the Republican platform included a call for a high protective tariff (or tax), free homesteads, and a transcontinental railroad. With Lincoln as their nominee, they won the election and freed the slaves. Lincoln himself created several government agencies: Department of Agriculture, Bureau of Internal Revenue, and the national banking system. He passed the Homestead Act, because he understtod the "importance of... having a piece of land to call your own." He passed the Land Grant College Act, which created universities throughout the country by donating land for agricultural and technical colleges to the states.
Republicans passed the Civil Rights Act of 1866, passed the 14th Amendment in 1868, passed the National Eight Hour Law (which while only limited government workers to 8 hour work days, set a precedent for all workers), passed the 15th Amendment in 1870 (which guarantees voting rights to all citizens of age), authorized equal pay for female government employees in 1872, the Pendleton Act in 1883 (which required at least 10% of the bureaucracy to be a professional workforce and created the Civil Service Commission), and in 1890 passed the Sherman Anti-Trust Act. Later Roosevelt, a Republican, used this act to break up several large monopolies.
Roosevelt did several things today's Republicans would find appalling. He became involved with foreign policy by supporting the creation of the Panama Canal. He negotiated the Treaty of Portsmouth, ending the conflict between Japan and Russia. In 1906, he passed laws concerning safe food and meat production. Later, he began naming forests as federal reserves and created the Department of Labor.
In 1919, the Republican party successfully passed the 19th Amendment giving women the right to vote. The first woman elected to Congress was a Montana Republican in 1917.
In the 1920s, the party ran on platform opposing the League of Nations, high tariffs, and promoting business interests. These low tariffs and business policies led to great prosperity until 1929 when Wall Street crashed. The hands off approach by the party led to FDR being elected in 1932. I n 1940, they became them first major political party to support and endorse and equal rights amendment for women. When Eisenhower was elected he created the Interstate Highway System and continued American space exploration, as well as creating the Department of Health, Education, and Welfare, the Civil Rights Commission and the civil rights division in the Justice Department. These led to the Civil Rights Act of 1957, which kept the government from interfering with blacks wanting to vote.
The first mention of bipartisan effort in any of my research was when the parties joined together on foreign policy after the Republican support for the nation's war effort (began by the Democrats). In fact, it was the Republicans that were usually against the wars the US fought.
It wasn't until Nixon was elected in 1968 that the Republican party began believing that America had the best form of government. It was then that the country began having a larger role in world politics and promoting the values of the country. He reopened relations with China, helping with globalization, ended the country's involvement in the Vietnam War, signed arms control treaties, promoted our manned space program, brought inflation under control by implementing the traditional Republican policy of fiscal control and by cutting the dollar loose from the gold standard, and helped to pass the Clean Air Act.
Reagan followed. He increased military spending and had the largest peacetime military buildup in US history. However, his revamping of the tax code exempted million of those with low incomes and eliminated many deductions. He had the Iran-contra affair to mar his record, where the US sent arms to Iran without Congressional approval and to Nicaraguan guerrillas.
Bush Sr., supported free trade, Middle East peace, and NATO.
What has the Republican party become? They supported W. when he invaded Iraq on a lie of nuclear weapons. Granted I understand we had been attacked, but because he couldn't figure out who did it he fabricated a report. Yet many still think he was in the right. He created tax cuts that left the lower and middle classes to pay for the functionings of our government. This led to over $3 trillion in debt. Something that was almost unheard of in the Republican party before.
Once they supported civil and individual rights. Now they want to deny gays the right to marry.
They once respected the Constitution and, therefore, the separation of church and state as that is created by the Constitution. Now they want to impose Christian values on all of those in this country and create laws that reflect this, when the Constitution states that the government cannot do so.
They have always wanted small government and less government regulation in our lives. But by passing laws on marriage, "legitimate" rape, and other similar things creates more regulations and more of the government "butting into our lives."
Before they supported helping the middle and lower classes with tax cuts and the Homestead Act, now they rally for corporate and wealthy tax cuts as well as not helping the homeless or unemployed.
They stood for education at one point; they actually created many of the universities around the country. Now they want to stop funding education and helping students afford education beyond the secondary level.
They have always supported businesses but not to the extent of putting them over their constituents. With corporate tax cuts, out sourcing, and the like they are hurting our economy, putting us out of work, and creating wider gaps between economic classes.
These are all stances held by Mitt Romney and Paul Ryan. Please consider who you support and what they stand for before you vote this November. Do your homework. Realize these policies are not helping our country, but hurting it. We are becoming a nation that discriminates based on religion, sex, sexuality, and tax bracket.
The Democrats are not perfect, not by a long shot, but they are not trying to take away the things they gave you. Republicans are backing out of so many things they promised with the laws they passed in our country's history and are now passing laws that will in effect repeal or block them.
Sources:
http://voices.yahoo.com/historical-outline-american-political-parties-16427.html
http://www.infoplease.com/ce6/history/A0860701.html
http://www.nfrw.org/republicans/history.htm#LINCOLN
Thursday, August 16, 2012
Tank's surprise good-for-him goodies!
Sorry guys, my original post was deleted when I tried to change the title from my phone a few days ago... Stupid thing...
Tank is my baby, anyone who reads this blog knows that. He's a spoiled rotten little brat. He rules my free time (which at the moment, is not very often). Take today for example, I worked a double at the new job but had a 4.5 hour break. What did I do with my break? Drove the 30 minutes back home (after getting free lunch from the amazing boyfriend!), and took him to the park. He had a blast, like usual. What did I do when I got cut early tonight? Went home and played with him for a few hours before leaving to cook dinner for the boyfriend. Yes, he comes before my romantic aspirations.
On top of all that, he gets lots of treats. Lots of them. I'm pretty sure I spend more a month on treats than on his actual dog food. Granted treats are expensive. Don't get me wrong, he gets good food (the only kind I could find that keeps him from trying to eat all the grass in the dog park...), but it's relatively affordable. Treat companies make bank though! That's where it's at in the pet industry--treats and toys. Lately the little shit has been getting fat with all the attention and rewards.
Recently, I found a brand called LeanTreats (available at VetDepot). I was leery at first, considering the extremely low price and the claim of being good for them and good tasting. From experience, healthy dog treats stink, are expensive, and not his favorite. Don't get me wrong, he'll eat anything, but he does have his favorites. But I thought they'd be worth a shot.
When I first opened them, I was happily surprised to notice that they didn't stink. In fact, the have less smell than any of the treats I've bought, healthy or not. So they passed the first test. The big one was soon to follow.
I pulled them out of the pet cabinet to see how he'd respond. Knowing it was treat time, he freaked like usual. I handed him one, and he didn't hesitate. I swear I almost lost a finger!! After a bit, I tossed one up for him to catch. He missed like usual but chased it down like it was going to escape. The following days, his enthusiasm didn't deteriorate.
It's safe to say, he loves them.
The size is awesome too. They're small enough to be used as training treats, but big enough to be just surprise goodies. At 7 calories and 4-7% crude fat apiece, they're great to keep your dog from gaining weight from getting several treats a day (like Tank gets).
The 4-ounce bag was at first disheartening. I wondered how in the world they would last more than a day or two. But again, thanks to their size, they lasted quite awhile. A week or so actually. They also offer a line for large dogs, however, I'm not sure on the amount of calories or size difference in the treats.
Another plus is that they contain glucosamine and chondroitin for joint health, which is helpful for overweight or older dogs, as well as those larger breeds that are known to have joint issues.
I highly recommend heading over to VetDepot and picking up several bags of these. And they have a line for cats, which if Sugar's reaction to the dog treats was any indication, they'll love them too. You have nothing to lose, except for a few extra puppy pounds maybe!
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| Tank waiting impatiently for his LeanTreat. |
Love!!
Thursday, July 5, 2012
How to Permanently Scar/Mortify a Repairman
That's right. I'm going to teach you how to keep repairmen from wanting to return to your place. Basically, how to meet new people without putting yourself out there.
Step 1: Rent an apartment where one has to walk past your bedroom window to get from the parking lot to your front door.
Step 2: Leave bedroom window cracked open all the time. This way you can hear what your neighbors are arguing about outside and know when people arrive.
Step 3: Call in a work order for your bathtub to your landlord or rental agency.
Step 4: Have loud early afternoon sex, since usually repairmen show up at your place at 8am (fuckers, don't they know people like to sleep?!?!?!).
Step 5: When someone knocks on your front door interrupting your afternoon delight, answer in only a towel (have look on your face like actually I want to finish what I know you heard me doing).
Step 6: Tell repairman that yes you were just about to shower, so yes they are inconveniencing you.
Step 7: Allow repairman in anyway.
Step 8: When repairman leaves to get part/key/whatever they forgot, suddenly remember you left your vibrator in plain sight in the shower.
Step 9: Leave it and shower.
Step 10: When repairman returns, answer door in same towel with makeup on.
Step 11: Try to carry on a normal conversation when they try to leave after fixing your problem, knowing they know you showered and still left said vibrator in the shower.
Honestly, I felt kinda bad for the guy. When he left the first time, I sat down on the bed and realized I had left it in the shower all I could do was laugh hysterically. I figured taking it out after I know he saw it (it's kinda hard to miss that color in a white shower) would make me look ashamed, when obviously if I'm posting this on here where people I know in real life read this I'm not.
Anyone have stories like this?? Link up and share!! I know I'm not alone in crazy, embarrassing stories.
Step 1: Rent an apartment where one has to walk past your bedroom window to get from the parking lot to your front door.
Step 2: Leave bedroom window cracked open all the time. This way you can hear what your neighbors are arguing about outside and know when people arrive.
Step 3: Call in a work order for your bathtub to your landlord or rental agency.
Step 4: Have loud early afternoon sex, since usually repairmen show up at your place at 8am (fuckers, don't they know people like to sleep?!?!?!).
Step 5: When someone knocks on your front door interrupting your afternoon delight, answer in only a towel (have look on your face like actually I want to finish what I know you heard me doing).
Step 6: Tell repairman that yes you were just about to shower, so yes they are inconveniencing you.
Step 7: Allow repairman in anyway.
Step 8: When repairman leaves to get part/key/whatever they forgot, suddenly remember you left your vibrator in plain sight in the shower.
Step 9: Leave it and shower.
Step 10: When repairman returns, answer door in same towel with makeup on.
Step 11: Try to carry on a normal conversation when they try to leave after fixing your problem, knowing they know you showered and still left said vibrator in the shower.
Honestly, I felt kinda bad for the guy. When he left the first time, I sat down on the bed and realized I had left it in the shower all I could do was laugh hysterically. I figured taking it out after I know he saw it (it's kinda hard to miss that color in a white shower) would make me look ashamed, when obviously if I'm posting this on here where people I know in real life read this I'm not.
Anyone have stories like this?? Link up and share!! I know I'm not alone in crazy, embarrassing stories.
Monday, June 11, 2012
Test of strength
Today has been one of the most emotionally draining days I have had in a while (yesterday, whatever you want to call it). Some people call it a test of faith, others would say its a road block or stepping stone. Whatever the fuck it is, it hurts so fucking much.
I've been torn down and treated like shit in the past. I've had people use me and walk all over me. But I don't think I've ever been made to feel this worthless. Empty can't even begin to describe the feeling in my chest right now.
Maybe I fell too hard and too fast. Maybe thinking I was worthy of some amazing was too much. Maybe I shouldn't trust anyone anymore.
I guess you can figure out that the boyfriend did something really really wrong. I don't want to get into details and drag down anyone's character or make him out to be a bad person, so I'm not going to do that. The few of you that know how to contact me personally can do so and I'll share a little bit. I just don't see the need to let the entire world know all the details.
It happened early early this morning. After getting in a good (if you want to call it that), long cry, I went to church for the first time in years. Not for this reason. The wife of a good friend of mine invited me out for his surprise birthday at their church. Personally, I was afraid I was going to be struck by lightening, but I hadn't seen him in awhile and knew I wouldn't be able to go back to sleep. So off to a church an hour away I went.
If you know me or have followed my posts, you know I'm not a religious person. One could go as far as saying I don't know what I do or don't believe in. However, the message this "Holy Roller" preacher had this morning really hit home and I believe it would for anyone no matter their beliefs. Basically he said that God wants people who have been through hell to share his message, not those that had not been through trials or hard times. Because only those that have been through it and come through it can share the true grace of God with others.
I say it could work for anyone because honestly, I wouldn't want people close to me who haven't been tested and haven't had hard times in their lives giving me advice or trying to help me through things (and isn't that what good friends do?). I can't trust that someone who hasn't been through a difficult time could do much of anything other than say "I'm sorry." Not that it's a bad thing if you haven't been tested, but for as much shit as I've been through it's hard to talk to people who've had it pretty easy.
You have to have faith in whatever you believe in when times are near impossible. You have to have faith in yourself. That you're a strong person and you will get through anything no matter what. You have to know that you have at least one person there for you, whether they're an obvious choice or not. Everyone has someone they can lean on when they absolutely need it.
Now I'm not in any shape to be saying this right now or giving advice. I'm bawling. Again. But I know I have those people. I know I'm a strong person when I have nothing else. I may be crushed and empty and just wanting to crawl in a hole at the moment, but I know whatever happens I will come through it and I have people who will drag me out of my hole kicking and screaming so I will face hardships head on and come out stronger (if not more cold hearted).
I don't know what I'm going to do about my current situation. None of the choices presented seem logical, even though there are maybe 3-4 tops, 2 for sure. I know whatever I do, it's going to be hard for me trust again or put myself out there. But I'm strong. And when I have moments when I can't be, like now, I have people who are willing to be strong for me. Or at least get me drunk so I don't give a fuck.
Basically, have faith in YOU and know you are not alone in anything.
G'night.
I've been torn down and treated like shit in the past. I've had people use me and walk all over me. But I don't think I've ever been made to feel this worthless. Empty can't even begin to describe the feeling in my chest right now.
Maybe I fell too hard and too fast. Maybe thinking I was worthy of some amazing was too much. Maybe I shouldn't trust anyone anymore.
I guess you can figure out that the boyfriend did something really really wrong. I don't want to get into details and drag down anyone's character or make him out to be a bad person, so I'm not going to do that. The few of you that know how to contact me personally can do so and I'll share a little bit. I just don't see the need to let the entire world know all the details.
It happened early early this morning. After getting in a good (if you want to call it that), long cry, I went to church for the first time in years. Not for this reason. The wife of a good friend of mine invited me out for his surprise birthday at their church. Personally, I was afraid I was going to be struck by lightening, but I hadn't seen him in awhile and knew I wouldn't be able to go back to sleep. So off to a church an hour away I went.
If you know me or have followed my posts, you know I'm not a religious person. One could go as far as saying I don't know what I do or don't believe in. However, the message this "Holy Roller" preacher had this morning really hit home and I believe it would for anyone no matter their beliefs. Basically he said that God wants people who have been through hell to share his message, not those that had not been through trials or hard times. Because only those that have been through it and come through it can share the true grace of God with others.
I say it could work for anyone because honestly, I wouldn't want people close to me who haven't been tested and haven't had hard times in their lives giving me advice or trying to help me through things (and isn't that what good friends do?). I can't trust that someone who hasn't been through a difficult time could do much of anything other than say "I'm sorry." Not that it's a bad thing if you haven't been tested, but for as much shit as I've been through it's hard to talk to people who've had it pretty easy.
You have to have faith in whatever you believe in when times are near impossible. You have to have faith in yourself. That you're a strong person and you will get through anything no matter what. You have to know that you have at least one person there for you, whether they're an obvious choice or not. Everyone has someone they can lean on when they absolutely need it.
Now I'm not in any shape to be saying this right now or giving advice. I'm bawling. Again. But I know I have those people. I know I'm a strong person when I have nothing else. I may be crushed and empty and just wanting to crawl in a hole at the moment, but I know whatever happens I will come through it and I have people who will drag me out of my hole kicking and screaming so I will face hardships head on and come out stronger (if not more cold hearted).
I don't know what I'm going to do about my current situation. None of the choices presented seem logical, even though there are maybe 3-4 tops, 2 for sure. I know whatever I do, it's going to be hard for me trust again or put myself out there. But I'm strong. And when I have moments when I can't be, like now, I have people who are willing to be strong for me. Or at least get me drunk so I don't give a fuck.
Basically, have faith in YOU and know you are not alone in anything.
G'night.
Thursday, May 31, 2012
Vacay!
How was everyone's Memorial Day weekend? Any great adventures?
I had my first vacation in several years, it was great. The boyfriend and I went to the Illinois River with his friends to camp and float. I float this river every year, but I don't think I have ever camped out there. Unless you count spending a night or two in some of the cabins, but those have air conditioning and bathrooms so I really don't.
Honestly, I didn't really want to go. We had had a few disagreements over the whole idea of the trip. As crazy as I can be, I don't really feel comfortable around large groups of people I don't know if they're drinking much. Let's face it, it's the river. There will be copious amounts of alcohol consumed. Also, I can be very easily irritated when I'm drinking. I didn't want to get mad at people I didn't know for some stupid reason or get them mad at me.
I am SO glad I went, however. I've never met a better group of people in my life. And I've never had more adventures in four days than I did this last weekend.
We were supposed to have a campsite with electricity so we would have lights for beer pong and be able to plug in our speakers. When we arrived, however, we had been given one without access to electric. We talked the office into letting us move to a site where we could bum some off another site. Then we figured out the tent Dad let us borrow was missing all the poles, and my whole family was in Houston so we couldn't just drive the 30 minutes back to their place to get another one. Thankfully, someone had brought an extra tent. Other than that, the first night was pretty uneventful. My friends B and Joe came out to drink with us for awhile. I got pretty drunk and ended up opening up quicker than normal. The boyfriend and I ended up having to sleep on the ground the first night because we forgot to blow up the air mattress.
We floated the river Saturday. We were supposed to go the whole 12 miles, however, when you run out of food, beer, cigarettes, and water for an entire group of 15-20 drunk people you tend to abandon that mission. I ended the trip with a few sets of beads (imagine that!), some scrapes and bruises from being pushed out of the rafts a few times, and a major sunburn. It didn't help that we all ended up drunk before we even got on the bus to get to the river. Nothing like ended up hungover in the cruel Oklahoma sun. It took us 7 hours to go 6 miles, which is ridiculous. We were all playing musical rafts, shooting strangers with water guns, bribing girls to show their boobs for beads. It was a lot of fun.
That night, we had a transvestite show up at our camp. You guys know me and know I have no problem with anyone's sexuality, but this "girl" had issues. One of the guys brought her over, I assume with the intent to sleep with her, and realized when she stepped under our spotlight that she had at one point in her life been a man. If the group wasn't made up of mostly redneck-ish people, I'm sure it would have been fine, but we couldn't help but snicker. She didn't help matters much by being trashed and passing out in the middle of our campsite.
The next day we headed back out to the river. Very few of us drank that morning. Boyfriend and I ended up on a raft with another couple the entire trip, which was actually quite fun. We freaked out when we saw giant catfish in the river and were bummed when we realized the fishing gear was back at camp. So we rigged up a redneck fishing pole using the straps from the coozies you hang around your neck and a keyring from one of the dry boxes. We used pieces of sandwiches for bait. Obviously we didn't catch anything, but we had a lot of fun and got some great laughs from other people. The boys decided jumping at the fish from the raft was a much better way to go. It was quite comical. Again, we bailed at the 6 mile point. This time we had enough of everything, we were just way too exhausted from the day before to continue. And the wind was blowing so hard the wrong direction it would push you upstream at times.
Sunday night was pretty eventful. We got back to camp as the cops were pulling into the area. Apparently some guy was beat up and put in his raft to continue downstream. It was supposedly a gang fight (considering how close it is to Muskogee it's possible), however, that was never confirmed. We were visited by some very interesting gentlemen later. They were in kilts and tin foil hats. They asked us to sign their noodle. Even later, B and I were drunkenly two-stepping and from nowhere we here "I'll teach you to play country music!" One of the guys had been in his tent with a girl we began to refer to as Fluffy White Chick from the next site over, and he came out butt ass naked. The few of us that were still awake ended up on the other side of the fire from him as he attempted to piss in the fire. Then he approached us asking "Who wants a hug?" Fuckers pushed the smallest person out front... We ended the night "singing" metal and discussing what groups we like and hate.
Monday we all headed out. Boyfriend and I spent the night at my parents' house because we were exhausted and didn't want to fight post holiday traffic. It was definitely the best weekend I've had in a long time!
Can't wait for our next adventure!!
Love!!
I had my first vacation in several years, it was great. The boyfriend and I went to the Illinois River with his friends to camp and float. I float this river every year, but I don't think I have ever camped out there. Unless you count spending a night or two in some of the cabins, but those have air conditioning and bathrooms so I really don't.
Honestly, I didn't really want to go. We had had a few disagreements over the whole idea of the trip. As crazy as I can be, I don't really feel comfortable around large groups of people I don't know if they're drinking much. Let's face it, it's the river. There will be copious amounts of alcohol consumed. Also, I can be very easily irritated when I'm drinking. I didn't want to get mad at people I didn't know for some stupid reason or get them mad at me.
I am SO glad I went, however. I've never met a better group of people in my life. And I've never had more adventures in four days than I did this last weekend.
We were supposed to have a campsite with electricity so we would have lights for beer pong and be able to plug in our speakers. When we arrived, however, we had been given one without access to electric. We talked the office into letting us move to a site where we could bum some off another site. Then we figured out the tent Dad let us borrow was missing all the poles, and my whole family was in Houston so we couldn't just drive the 30 minutes back to their place to get another one. Thankfully, someone had brought an extra tent. Other than that, the first night was pretty uneventful. My friends B and Joe came out to drink with us for awhile. I got pretty drunk and ended up opening up quicker than normal. The boyfriend and I ended up having to sleep on the ground the first night because we forgot to blow up the air mattress.
We floated the river Saturday. We were supposed to go the whole 12 miles, however, when you run out of food, beer, cigarettes, and water for an entire group of 15-20 drunk people you tend to abandon that mission. I ended the trip with a few sets of beads (imagine that!), some scrapes and bruises from being pushed out of the rafts a few times, and a major sunburn. It didn't help that we all ended up drunk before we even got on the bus to get to the river. Nothing like ended up hungover in the cruel Oklahoma sun. It took us 7 hours to go 6 miles, which is ridiculous. We were all playing musical rafts, shooting strangers with water guns, bribing girls to show their boobs for beads. It was a lot of fun.
That night, we had a transvestite show up at our camp. You guys know me and know I have no problem with anyone's sexuality, but this "girl" had issues. One of the guys brought her over, I assume with the intent to sleep with her, and realized when she stepped under our spotlight that she had at one point in her life been a man. If the group wasn't made up of mostly redneck-ish people, I'm sure it would have been fine, but we couldn't help but snicker. She didn't help matters much by being trashed and passing out in the middle of our campsite.
The next day we headed back out to the river. Very few of us drank that morning. Boyfriend and I ended up on a raft with another couple the entire trip, which was actually quite fun. We freaked out when we saw giant catfish in the river and were bummed when we realized the fishing gear was back at camp. So we rigged up a redneck fishing pole using the straps from the coozies you hang around your neck and a keyring from one of the dry boxes. We used pieces of sandwiches for bait. Obviously we didn't catch anything, but we had a lot of fun and got some great laughs from other people. The boys decided jumping at the fish from the raft was a much better way to go. It was quite comical. Again, we bailed at the 6 mile point. This time we had enough of everything, we were just way too exhausted from the day before to continue. And the wind was blowing so hard the wrong direction it would push you upstream at times.
Sunday night was pretty eventful. We got back to camp as the cops were pulling into the area. Apparently some guy was beat up and put in his raft to continue downstream. It was supposedly a gang fight (considering how close it is to Muskogee it's possible), however, that was never confirmed. We were visited by some very interesting gentlemen later. They were in kilts and tin foil hats. They asked us to sign their noodle. Even later, B and I were drunkenly two-stepping and from nowhere we here "I'll teach you to play country music!" One of the guys had been in his tent with a girl we began to refer to as Fluffy White Chick from the next site over, and he came out butt ass naked. The few of us that were still awake ended up on the other side of the fire from him as he attempted to piss in the fire. Then he approached us asking "Who wants a hug?" Fuckers pushed the smallest person out front... We ended the night "singing" metal and discussing what groups we like and hate.
Monday we all headed out. Boyfriend and I spent the night at my parents' house because we were exhausted and didn't want to fight post holiday traffic. It was definitely the best weekend I've had in a long time!
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| B and I on night 1 |
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| The boyfriend and I on our first vacation together!! Love him! |
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| Tin foil kilt men with their noodle |
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| Beer pong! |
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| I think we're freakin adorable, just sayin. |
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| No clue what Joe and I are doing here, but it must have been hilarious to the guy behind me. |
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| Boyfriend and one of the guys playing beer pong |
Love!!
Friday, May 25, 2012
Would things be different?
I made love for the first time the other night. I've had one-night-stands, great sex, been straight out fucked, but never until then had I made love. I don't know if he'd call it the same thing, guys have this strange aversion to the phrase "making love" I've noticed. But screw what he thinks in this instance. Yes. Yes. It was amazing. I love the feeling of his arms around me anytime, add that to intense intimacy and you've got me hooked like a cat on catnip. As much as I'd love to go into details, I'm gonna keep those to myself.
Strange way to start a post that sounds very retro- and intro-spective from the title, right? Basically, I don't know how I got here. Ok I do, you don't. I used to be what some would call a goody-good, now I'm a partier who's always up for trying new and crazy things. I was the one who got Mom and Bubba going to church when I was in middle school. I was very devout for several years, was even asked to be a counselor at camp by the dean of the camp. Unfortunately, I was made to feel like an outcast and like a bad believer for reasons I still don't know. So I decided to live my life my way and enjoy whatever I could. I'm happier this way. I don't feel like I'm not living up to someone else's expectations of me.
I look back on everything I've done, the people I've met, and the things that have happened to me, and I wonder if I would be where I am now if things hadn't been the way they were--and if I were here anyway, would the way I feel be any different?
I moved around a lot as a kid. We were never a military family, my parents were just always looking for better opportunities for Bubba and I. Until they moved to their current location, I was never in one school longer than 4 years. I did live in the same house for 8, but changed schools twice. After 4 years in Norman, I have to itch to move. Nothing too drastic, probably just Tulsa, but its still there. Unfortunately, I don't have the funds and even if I did my lease isn't up for awhile. Well... that and I found something worth staying for. Or someone I should say. Thankfully, we both had plans to move there before we met. It's early but I think it's pretty awesome that we found each other in the midst of starting plans to move to the same city. It's better than meeting someone and leaving without them shortly after or staying somewhere you don't want to be just for someone new. Hopefully things work out well.
I dated a lot of losers over the last few years. Actually, that's unfair. I've become friends with most of them since, and for the most part, they're all pretty awesome guys. Just not who I should be with. They had their redeeming qualities while I was with them, and I'm sure most of those reasons are why we can now be friends, but meshing with me was not one of them. That, and they all broke my heart in one way or another. Oddly enough, I only went into a depression because of one of them, other times it was them. Strange when you think about it... You hurt me, I leave you, you're the one depressed... Doesn't entirely make sense now that I think about it, but what in this world really does? I learned about myself from those guys, so I'm thankful.
With that said, some of the guys I dated messed me up for awhile. I've been cheated on, used, emotionally and physically abused (not to an extreme on either, but it still fucks you up), and things I don't entirely want to list on here. Men can be awful creatures. So can women. I could be controlling and possessive, I used to be highly jealous person, I'm sure I tore a few guys down. Some of it was defense mechanisms, other times it was immaturity and insecurity. I'm still young so I'm probably still going to make big mistakes when it comes to all this, but hopefully I never repeat any of these mistakes.
I've had many good friends over the years. Most of whom I am still in contact with and very close to even if we don't see each other. Others have decided I'm not a vital part of their lives anymore. Almost everyone I'm extremely close to has stabbed me in the back, but I did the same at some point. The fact that we can get past that makes us even closer I believe. It hurts thinking about why I've lost some people, most (not all) could easily be fixed by a heart-to-heart that I'm more than willing to have but the idea has not been reciprocated. I know that means they aren't meant to be a current part of my life, but that doesn't change the fact that it does hurt. Doesn't matter, they may not know or believe this but if ever any of them ever needed me I'd be there in a heartbeat because of how important they once were.
Looking back on all this, I can't help but wonder: would things be different now if part or all of this hadn't have happened in my past? Would I have been able to just start becoming spontaneous in many aspects of my life? I wouldn't have Tank if I wasn't so I wouldn't have my only furbaby. I wouldn't have bought Cleo either (I miss my Little Bit). Would I be so open to meeting new people? I don't think I would have gone bowling recently with a group of people I only know because they are regulars where I work if I didn't feel the need to meet new people and surround myself with people who just want to enjoy life. Would I guard myself, unlike I used to so that I know if someone is worth having my trust? Doubtful, I was a naive thing for a long time.
The last 6 1/2 years have made me feel more worldly (though, I haven't traveled much at all). Maybe "somewhat wise" is the phrase I'm looking for. I've had some interesting experiences, most of which happened between July and now. Not all of them were great, but some were amazing. However, I wouldn't trade any of it.
Because of all this, I have what I have now. The strongest friendships I've ever had with people who will always be there and vice versa. My own little family of me and my furbaby who makes me smile everyday of my life. A job, that while doesn't keep my wallet full, makes me happy at the end of the day and has let me meet some awesome people. And an amazing man who knows about my somewhat screwed up past; he accepts me with all my quirks and insecurities and makes me beautiful, safe, and loved. I fell for him hard and fast. Four months and I can't even sleep without him next to me anymore. It's insane.
Maybe none of this will last forever, maybe it will. All I know is that honestly I've never been happier. And I know things wouldn't be this way if my past hadn't set me on this path.
I know the introduction to this post is still a little unnerving and possibly odd to some. The point was making a complete circle. I'm amazingly happy and that experience wouldn't have happened if I hadn't have gotten to this place in my life. Crazy, huh? Maybe I would never know what it was like to make love. Ugh, ok even to me that phrase is awkward and cliche haha. Oh well, it is what it is.
I'm off to bed hopefully. The boyfriend, his friends, and I are headed to the river tomorrow for a weekend of floating, camping, and drinking. Finally! Time away from the craziness of real life :-D Huh, oddly enough this fits under Thankful Thursdays (yeah yeah I realize it's 4:30 Friday morning but I haven't gone to bed yet so it's still Thursday lol).
G'night lovelies!
Love!!
Strange way to start a post that sounds very retro- and intro-spective from the title, right? Basically, I don't know how I got here. Ok I do, you don't. I used to be what some would call a goody-good, now I'm a partier who's always up for trying new and crazy things. I was the one who got Mom and Bubba going to church when I was in middle school. I was very devout for several years, was even asked to be a counselor at camp by the dean of the camp. Unfortunately, I was made to feel like an outcast and like a bad believer for reasons I still don't know. So I decided to live my life my way and enjoy whatever I could. I'm happier this way. I don't feel like I'm not living up to someone else's expectations of me.
I look back on everything I've done, the people I've met, and the things that have happened to me, and I wonder if I would be where I am now if things hadn't been the way they were--and if I were here anyway, would the way I feel be any different?
I moved around a lot as a kid. We were never a military family, my parents were just always looking for better opportunities for Bubba and I. Until they moved to their current location, I was never in one school longer than 4 years. I did live in the same house for 8, but changed schools twice. After 4 years in Norman, I have to itch to move. Nothing too drastic, probably just Tulsa, but its still there. Unfortunately, I don't have the funds and even if I did my lease isn't up for awhile. Well... that and I found something worth staying for. Or someone I should say. Thankfully, we both had plans to move there before we met. It's early but I think it's pretty awesome that we found each other in the midst of starting plans to move to the same city. It's better than meeting someone and leaving without them shortly after or staying somewhere you don't want to be just for someone new. Hopefully things work out well.
I dated a lot of losers over the last few years. Actually, that's unfair. I've become friends with most of them since, and for the most part, they're all pretty awesome guys. Just not who I should be with. They had their redeeming qualities while I was with them, and I'm sure most of those reasons are why we can now be friends, but meshing with me was not one of them. That, and they all broke my heart in one way or another. Oddly enough, I only went into a depression because of one of them, other times it was them. Strange when you think about it... You hurt me, I leave you, you're the one depressed... Doesn't entirely make sense now that I think about it, but what in this world really does? I learned about myself from those guys, so I'm thankful.
With that said, some of the guys I dated messed me up for awhile. I've been cheated on, used, emotionally and physically abused (not to an extreme on either, but it still fucks you up), and things I don't entirely want to list on here. Men can be awful creatures. So can women. I could be controlling and possessive, I used to be highly jealous person, I'm sure I tore a few guys down. Some of it was defense mechanisms, other times it was immaturity and insecurity. I'm still young so I'm probably still going to make big mistakes when it comes to all this, but hopefully I never repeat any of these mistakes.
I've had many good friends over the years. Most of whom I am still in contact with and very close to even if we don't see each other. Others have decided I'm not a vital part of their lives anymore. Almost everyone I'm extremely close to has stabbed me in the back, but I did the same at some point. The fact that we can get past that makes us even closer I believe. It hurts thinking about why I've lost some people, most (not all) could easily be fixed by a heart-to-heart that I'm more than willing to have but the idea has not been reciprocated. I know that means they aren't meant to be a current part of my life, but that doesn't change the fact that it does hurt. Doesn't matter, they may not know or believe this but if ever any of them ever needed me I'd be there in a heartbeat because of how important they once were.
Looking back on all this, I can't help but wonder: would things be different now if part or all of this hadn't have happened in my past? Would I have been able to just start becoming spontaneous in many aspects of my life? I wouldn't have Tank if I wasn't so I wouldn't have my only furbaby. I wouldn't have bought Cleo either (I miss my Little Bit). Would I be so open to meeting new people? I don't think I would have gone bowling recently with a group of people I only know because they are regulars where I work if I didn't feel the need to meet new people and surround myself with people who just want to enjoy life. Would I guard myself, unlike I used to so that I know if someone is worth having my trust? Doubtful, I was a naive thing for a long time.
The last 6 1/2 years have made me feel more worldly (though, I haven't traveled much at all). Maybe "somewhat wise" is the phrase I'm looking for. I've had some interesting experiences, most of which happened between July and now. Not all of them were great, but some were amazing. However, I wouldn't trade any of it.
Because of all this, I have what I have now. The strongest friendships I've ever had with people who will always be there and vice versa. My own little family of me and my furbaby who makes me smile everyday of my life. A job, that while doesn't keep my wallet full, makes me happy at the end of the day and has let me meet some awesome people. And an amazing man who knows about my somewhat screwed up past; he accepts me with all my quirks and insecurities and makes me beautiful, safe, and loved. I fell for him hard and fast. Four months and I can't even sleep without him next to me anymore. It's insane.
Maybe none of this will last forever, maybe it will. All I know is that honestly I've never been happier. And I know things wouldn't be this way if my past hadn't set me on this path.
I know the introduction to this post is still a little unnerving and possibly odd to some. The point was making a complete circle. I'm amazingly happy and that experience wouldn't have happened if I hadn't have gotten to this place in my life. Crazy, huh? Maybe I would never know what it was like to make love. Ugh, ok even to me that phrase is awkward and cliche haha. Oh well, it is what it is.
I'm off to bed hopefully. The boyfriend, his friends, and I are headed to the river tomorrow for a weekend of floating, camping, and drinking. Finally! Time away from the craziness of real life :-D Huh, oddly enough this fits under Thankful Thursdays (yeah yeah I realize it's 4:30 Friday morning but I haven't gone to bed yet so it's still Thursday lol).
G'night lovelies!
Love!!
Thursday, May 10, 2012
A personal and painful confession
Let me start this by saying, I know my mother and brother will probably read this, along with others who are close to me, and will not like what they are about to read. This is somewhat of a warning. If you don't want your picture of me as a strong, independent person who always has and always will deal with all of life's hardships in a rational way, please don't continue reading this. This is personal confession, and its extremely hard for me to write and make public. Don't judge me on my past and what I still fight with every day. With that said, here we go.
The other day, someone close to me was telling me about their past with a mutual friend of ours. This person told me that the friend supposedly cut themselves to get attention in a rough situation. They continued to say that they could never understand why someone would do that to themselves and they would never deal with someone who did.
This broke my heart.
People deal with pain, rejection, failure, etc. in many different ways. Most people can go through life and more or less accept what comes at them. Others cannot. Some do not know how to deal with these things that are part of every day life. You may think they are desperate for attention or being selfish, but honestly, most of the time they aren't.
I have known many people who were or currently are self-mutilators. They don't tell people, they get caught. One of the strongest people I have ever met, once had covered their body in over 200 cuts. They hid it. One day someone figured it out. This person still has issues with different types of self-mutilation, but fights it off every time they get the urge. They've learned how to deal in a different way.
Oddly enough, other ways can be more detrimental. I've seen so many people turn to drugs or alcohol after being found out. That ruins lives faster than anything else. It also directly affects those around you in how you act while under the influence.
Self-mutilators don't always have a mental disorder, such as depression or bi-polarism either; although, there is a good chance that in most cases the person does have at least a slight case of one or the other. Most often than not, these people internalize their problems.
I'm one of those people who internalize things. I have a hard time telling people that I'm upset, especially if they are the person that I'm upset with. I let it all pile up. I can handle a lot, but over time it adds up. This usually leads to a big problem that shouldn't have even come up. I don't like hurting others, I don't like telling them they're wrong or they've done something to hurt me even when it's small. At the time, I feel it isn't a big deal and I will get over it eventually. While I may get over it, it eventually comes back up if things continue to happen.
You would think the little things would be the easiest to talk about, but they aren't. They make me feel like I seem petty, however, I know it would be better to look that way for a short time than like a crazy person later on.
I say all this because I used to be one of these people. When things got to tough or too much to deal with, I would handle it by releasing my pain physically. I don't have scars. You could search my body over and never find evidence of this behavior. Like I said before, people know how to hide it.
I'm not saying this for pity, because believe me, the few people that saw the evidence of it made me feel awful about myself and my decision to do it. I'm finally saying it because you never know people as well as you think you do. You don't know how the things you say or do affect them. No, I don't do it anymore. Yes, I do struggle with the urge occasionally, but very rarely. I've found other ways to deal: working out, Tank, writing. I still have a very hard time telling people they've upset or hurt me. It seems to always cause more problems. That is most likely because I don't know how to breach the subject gently.
Personally though, I feel I shouldn't have to worry about someone else's feelings if I'm telling them that they have wronged me. If it was a misunderstanding, tell me so. I'm not going to throw a tantrum, I'll just tell you my point of view. Don't tell me I'm being stupid or too sensitive, that will make the situation worse. Just because something doesn't or wouldn't bother one person, doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.
I know it is hard for people to understand why others to this to themselves. Those people seem weak and selfish, and I can understand that point of view. I just wish for once, someone would try to see things from the "alternative" view. We internalize. We're afraid. We don't feel good about what we've done. We don't want you to know. For me, the physical pain was much easier to deal with than emotional. It was like the act released it from my body temporarily. It's not a healthy way to deal. It doesn't make life easier, and doesn't make the issues go away.
Between this and the ways I deal now, I did try alcohol to a point. Other than giving me a few nights of blackness, it didn't help at all and left me with painful headaches the next day. Those around me knew what I was doing and worried about me. I didn't put myself in compromising situations or drive, but it was still extremely stupid. I've lost a few people I care about very very much because of this behavior. I may still have a beer or two after a rough day, but I don't try to deal that way anymore. It wasn't worth making myself sick, having headaches, or losing people. Nothing is worth that.
The reason I am posting this and making my personal battle public is because people don't realize that by judging those who do these things, they could very possibly be making it worse. Don't condemn them, talk to them, find out what's bothering them so much that it could drive them to this behavior. The answer could be surprisingly simple and easily dealt with or complex enough that they need to seek professional advice. I realize most people think that anyone who hurts themselves needs professional help, but that's not the answer for everyone. I don't think I could sit there face-to-face with a complete stranger and tell them my problems. I'm afraid they will judge me or tell me I'm being stupid. And yes, I realize that they cannot openly say that, but they can think it. I'm thankful I have a handful of people who realize I struggle with little things and will listen even if I need to bitch about something that may be insignificant to them.
I don't know if I'll ever be able to tell the person who made me feel I needed to write this the truth. I don't want them to worry about every little thing, that maybe it could make me relapse. Because it isn't like that. Yes, I have tiny urges at times, but when that happens I grab a cigarette and try to come up with some way to get my mind off of it. Usually I end up online or working on my book. Sometimes I go to the gym. Sometimes I just cry. Every situation is different, as is every solution.
Judgement isn't the solution, it doesn't help the person. Compassion and a shoulder to lean on are the best things to offer. They do so much more than you could ever dream. It could save a life, in all meanings of the phrase.
The other day, someone close to me was telling me about their past with a mutual friend of ours. This person told me that the friend supposedly cut themselves to get attention in a rough situation. They continued to say that they could never understand why someone would do that to themselves and they would never deal with someone who did.
This broke my heart.
People deal with pain, rejection, failure, etc. in many different ways. Most people can go through life and more or less accept what comes at them. Others cannot. Some do not know how to deal with these things that are part of every day life. You may think they are desperate for attention or being selfish, but honestly, most of the time they aren't.
I have known many people who were or currently are self-mutilators. They don't tell people, they get caught. One of the strongest people I have ever met, once had covered their body in over 200 cuts. They hid it. One day someone figured it out. This person still has issues with different types of self-mutilation, but fights it off every time they get the urge. They've learned how to deal in a different way.
Oddly enough, other ways can be more detrimental. I've seen so many people turn to drugs or alcohol after being found out. That ruins lives faster than anything else. It also directly affects those around you in how you act while under the influence.
Self-mutilators don't always have a mental disorder, such as depression or bi-polarism either; although, there is a good chance that in most cases the person does have at least a slight case of one or the other. Most often than not, these people internalize their problems.
I'm one of those people who internalize things. I have a hard time telling people that I'm upset, especially if they are the person that I'm upset with. I let it all pile up. I can handle a lot, but over time it adds up. This usually leads to a big problem that shouldn't have even come up. I don't like hurting others, I don't like telling them they're wrong or they've done something to hurt me even when it's small. At the time, I feel it isn't a big deal and I will get over it eventually. While I may get over it, it eventually comes back up if things continue to happen.
You would think the little things would be the easiest to talk about, but they aren't. They make me feel like I seem petty, however, I know it would be better to look that way for a short time than like a crazy person later on.
I say all this because I used to be one of these people. When things got to tough or too much to deal with, I would handle it by releasing my pain physically. I don't have scars. You could search my body over and never find evidence of this behavior. Like I said before, people know how to hide it.
I'm not saying this for pity, because believe me, the few people that saw the evidence of it made me feel awful about myself and my decision to do it. I'm finally saying it because you never know people as well as you think you do. You don't know how the things you say or do affect them. No, I don't do it anymore. Yes, I do struggle with the urge occasionally, but very rarely. I've found other ways to deal: working out, Tank, writing. I still have a very hard time telling people they've upset or hurt me. It seems to always cause more problems. That is most likely because I don't know how to breach the subject gently.
Personally though, I feel I shouldn't have to worry about someone else's feelings if I'm telling them that they have wronged me. If it was a misunderstanding, tell me so. I'm not going to throw a tantrum, I'll just tell you my point of view. Don't tell me I'm being stupid or too sensitive, that will make the situation worse. Just because something doesn't or wouldn't bother one person, doesn't mean it's the same for everyone.
I know it is hard for people to understand why others to this to themselves. Those people seem weak and selfish, and I can understand that point of view. I just wish for once, someone would try to see things from the "alternative" view. We internalize. We're afraid. We don't feel good about what we've done. We don't want you to know. For me, the physical pain was much easier to deal with than emotional. It was like the act released it from my body temporarily. It's not a healthy way to deal. It doesn't make life easier, and doesn't make the issues go away.
Between this and the ways I deal now, I did try alcohol to a point. Other than giving me a few nights of blackness, it didn't help at all and left me with painful headaches the next day. Those around me knew what I was doing and worried about me. I didn't put myself in compromising situations or drive, but it was still extremely stupid. I've lost a few people I care about very very much because of this behavior. I may still have a beer or two after a rough day, but I don't try to deal that way anymore. It wasn't worth making myself sick, having headaches, or losing people. Nothing is worth that.
The reason I am posting this and making my personal battle public is because people don't realize that by judging those who do these things, they could very possibly be making it worse. Don't condemn them, talk to them, find out what's bothering them so much that it could drive them to this behavior. The answer could be surprisingly simple and easily dealt with or complex enough that they need to seek professional advice. I realize most people think that anyone who hurts themselves needs professional help, but that's not the answer for everyone. I don't think I could sit there face-to-face with a complete stranger and tell them my problems. I'm afraid they will judge me or tell me I'm being stupid. And yes, I realize that they cannot openly say that, but they can think it. I'm thankful I have a handful of people who realize I struggle with little things and will listen even if I need to bitch about something that may be insignificant to them.
I don't know if I'll ever be able to tell the person who made me feel I needed to write this the truth. I don't want them to worry about every little thing, that maybe it could make me relapse. Because it isn't like that. Yes, I have tiny urges at times, but when that happens I grab a cigarette and try to come up with some way to get my mind off of it. Usually I end up online or working on my book. Sometimes I go to the gym. Sometimes I just cry. Every situation is different, as is every solution.
Judgement isn't the solution, it doesn't help the person. Compassion and a shoulder to lean on are the best things to offer. They do so much more than you could ever dream. It could save a life, in all meanings of the phrase.
Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Homemade Spaghetti Sauce
Ingredients:
Tomato paste
salsa (you can make this if you want, I just didn't have the patience) (any kind that suits your fancy, I used World Table roasted tomato chipotle salsa)
mushrooms (any kind, I used shitake)
canned tomatoes (mine were home grown but store bought will work)
minced garlic
ground pepper
rosemary
thyme
dried basil
oregano
onion powder
cumin
crushed red pepper
Optional: onions, bell pepper, olives, etc
Basically, mix it all together to taste how you want. The amount of each ingredient is up to you. Make sure it reduces so it isn't too watery.
I added my favorite pasta cheeses while it cooked to bring out their flavors. The salsa isn't something I think could not be left out. I wanted the spice from it. Next time, I'm going to try it without it and substitute crushed tomatoes.
No pictures for this one, it looked like regular spaghetti sauce, haha.
Oddly enough, I had several cans of spaghetti sauce in my cabinet, but I wanted spicy, cheesy, and mushrooms which I can't seem to find a brand that mixes all that.
Tomato paste
salsa (you can make this if you want, I just didn't have the patience) (any kind that suits your fancy, I used World Table roasted tomato chipotle salsa)
mushrooms (any kind, I used shitake)
canned tomatoes (mine were home grown but store bought will work)
minced garlic
ground pepper
rosemary
thyme
dried basil
oregano
onion powder
cumin
crushed red pepper
Optional: onions, bell pepper, olives, etc
Basically, mix it all together to taste how you want. The amount of each ingredient is up to you. Make sure it reduces so it isn't too watery.
I added my favorite pasta cheeses while it cooked to bring out their flavors. The salsa isn't something I think could not be left out. I wanted the spice from it. Next time, I'm going to try it without it and substitute crushed tomatoes.
No pictures for this one, it looked like regular spaghetti sauce, haha.
Oddly enough, I had several cans of spaghetti sauce in my cabinet, but I wanted spicy, cheesy, and mushrooms which I can't seem to find a brand that mixes all that.
Sunday, April 29, 2012
Stillwater Stole My Heart
You guys know I LOVE LOVE LOVE my Sooners and Norman and everything about the two. So you're probably wondering how our in-state rival town won my heart. I know I wasn't expecting it. The boyfriend and I went to Stillwater to go to Calf Fry and so he could finally meet Bubba.
Calf Fry is a big 3-day country music concert where they serve calf fries. If you don't know what that is, well... it's fried bull testicles... but they're soooo good!!!
We stayed at the apartment of one of boyfriend's good friends. He was pretty kick ass. I got to meet some of his really good friends and loved them all!
I was pretty nervous about Bubba meeting him. He's only liked one of the people I've dated and well, that one ended really well... Boyfriend got major points for having gone to OSU and not liking the Dallas Cowboys even before he met Bubba. Getting ready for us all to go to lunch was nerve racking! We got to Eskimo Joe's late, which drives Bubba crazy because I'm hardly ever on time to things like that. Lunch went great! Bubba and I talked the whole time, while Boyfriend laughed at us. Honestly, we did sound like a couple of gossiping beauty shop ladies. When he slipped off to the restroom, Bub told me that he liked him even though he's quiet. HUGE sigh of relief there. Bub is the person whose opinion I respect the most out of my family.
That night, we decided to skip Calf Fry and let me check out the bar scene. First stop: Stonewall. A dive of a techno bar that I fell in love with! We ran into people we knew, it was great to see my friend T again. I would have been perfectly happy to stay there all night. Boyfriend had other plans though. We went to The Strip, which is basically their version of Campus Corner (collection of bars/clubs in one area where all the college kids go). He showed me College Bar and after about 5 minutes I realized he had taken me to the college aged version of Hudson's (where I work). It was pretty awesome. When a place has an old Mortal Combat arcade game, I'm in. I challenged him to a future, sober game of said game--which I intend to make good on and kick his ass at! He countered with saying he finds it hot that I love old video games. Cheater lol.
After that, we finished the night at Outlaws. It's basically Sooner Corral (a country dance club in Moore) but for 21 and up only and they actually have liquor lol. Talk about heaven!! Boyfriend is not a country music fan, but he takes me to places like this because he knows it makes me happy and giddy and that makes him happy apparently. I swear he's perfect. He even knows how to two-step and dances with me! This was no exception. By the time they were closing, I was out of breath from dancing.
The next day, we were pretty damn lazy. We went to his best friend's place around 7 and stayed there until Bub was ready to go to Calf Fry. We got there pretty late. I had to listen to Cody Canada and his new band (he was the lead singer of Cross Canadian Ragweed until they broke up) while we were waiting in line, but it was still great. I'm not entirely sure what I think of the new sound since I loved CCRW, but its pretty good. We finally got in and got to see Randy Rogers' Band. I love them!!! Kiss Me In The Dark is an awesome song and I got to see it performed!! Made my weekend. We had a few beers, even got a few for free from some random guys (who gave me a little shit for being from OU, but it was all in fun which is somewhat new to me. People aren't that nice in Norman most of the time...).
We had to leave early yesterday morning so we could both go to work... I didn't want to leave... People in Stillwater are much more down-to-earth and accepting. I made friends in the bathroom at Stonewall because I have piercings and at College Bar because I wasn't from there. Things like that are getting rarer in Norman, it seems. The pace of the town seems more laid back, as well. I'm going to have to make a habit of visiting now I'm afraid.
*Yawn* Oh its been a long day. Considering I haven't been off work long, I still consider it yesterday. I'll leave you guys with some pictures and then I'm off to bed!
Love!!!
Calf Fry is a big 3-day country music concert where they serve calf fries. If you don't know what that is, well... it's fried bull testicles... but they're soooo good!!!
We stayed at the apartment of one of boyfriend's good friends. He was pretty kick ass. I got to meet some of his really good friends and loved them all!
I was pretty nervous about Bubba meeting him. He's only liked one of the people I've dated and well, that one ended really well... Boyfriend got major points for having gone to OSU and not liking the Dallas Cowboys even before he met Bubba. Getting ready for us all to go to lunch was nerve racking! We got to Eskimo Joe's late, which drives Bubba crazy because I'm hardly ever on time to things like that. Lunch went great! Bubba and I talked the whole time, while Boyfriend laughed at us. Honestly, we did sound like a couple of gossiping beauty shop ladies. When he slipped off to the restroom, Bub told me that he liked him even though he's quiet. HUGE sigh of relief there. Bub is the person whose opinion I respect the most out of my family.
That night, we decided to skip Calf Fry and let me check out the bar scene. First stop: Stonewall. A dive of a techno bar that I fell in love with! We ran into people we knew, it was great to see my friend T again. I would have been perfectly happy to stay there all night. Boyfriend had other plans though. We went to The Strip, which is basically their version of Campus Corner (collection of bars/clubs in one area where all the college kids go). He showed me College Bar and after about 5 minutes I realized he had taken me to the college aged version of Hudson's (where I work). It was pretty awesome. When a place has an old Mortal Combat arcade game, I'm in. I challenged him to a future, sober game of said game--which I intend to make good on and kick his ass at! He countered with saying he finds it hot that I love old video games. Cheater lol.
After that, we finished the night at Outlaws. It's basically Sooner Corral (a country dance club in Moore) but for 21 and up only and they actually have liquor lol. Talk about heaven!! Boyfriend is not a country music fan, but he takes me to places like this because he knows it makes me happy and giddy and that makes him happy apparently. I swear he's perfect. He even knows how to two-step and dances with me! This was no exception. By the time they were closing, I was out of breath from dancing.
The next day, we were pretty damn lazy. We went to his best friend's place around 7 and stayed there until Bub was ready to go to Calf Fry. We got there pretty late. I had to listen to Cody Canada and his new band (he was the lead singer of Cross Canadian Ragweed until they broke up) while we were waiting in line, but it was still great. I'm not entirely sure what I think of the new sound since I loved CCRW, but its pretty good. We finally got in and got to see Randy Rogers' Band. I love them!!! Kiss Me In The Dark is an awesome song and I got to see it performed!! Made my weekend. We had a few beers, even got a few for free from some random guys (who gave me a little shit for being from OU, but it was all in fun which is somewhat new to me. People aren't that nice in Norman most of the time...).
We had to leave early yesterday morning so we could both go to work... I didn't want to leave... People in Stillwater are much more down-to-earth and accepting. I made friends in the bathroom at Stonewall because I have piercings and at College Bar because I wasn't from there. Things like that are getting rarer in Norman, it seems. The pace of the town seems more laid back, as well. I'm going to have to make a habit of visiting now I'm afraid.
*Yawn* Oh its been a long day. Considering I haven't been off work long, I still consider it yesterday. I'll leave you guys with some pictures and then I'm off to bed!
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| Randy Rogers' Band |
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| Boyfriend and I |
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| More Randy Rogers' |
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| Boyfriend, bubba and I! |
Thursday, April 26, 2012
I got the itch to cook lobster!
Salmon, beef, and chicken are starting to bore me. My girl Lo introduced me to an Asian market in the city which got my attention really quickly! I had already cooked octopus, so even though they had huge octopus and baby ones (which you can cook completely differently) I wanted something different. I've never cooked any sort of shellfish but I decided lobster would be a great idea. However, with the new job I'm a little strapped for cash. Wanna know a cheap but delicious way to cook lobster?
Buy lobster claws. Seriously. The claws have a lot of meat in them and taste just as good as the tails. The only difference is that they're much harder to get into. Cook some scallops for the side and you have an awesome meal.
Lobster is actually pretty easy to cook. So if you're looking for something fancy but not that difficult, you should try it! I'll share what I did.
Bring a large pot of slightly salted water to a rolling boil. I added crab/seafood seasoning (powder), cajun seasoning, freshly ground black pepper, and Grill Mates garlic & herb seasoning. Add quartered potatoes (smaller if you use large potatoes). Let them boil for about 10-15 minutes. Throw in small ears of corn. After about 5 minutes add a teaspoon (I just poured some) of Zataran's liquid crab boil. When it is at a rolling boil again, place lobster(s) in the pot. Bring back to boil, cook until bright red (around 10-15 minutes). If you want mushrooms, add these a few minutes before you remove everything because they cook very quickly.
Pretty damn easy, right?
The difficult part was the scallops. They are finicky. I thawed mine and then let them sit in a mixture of melted butter and garlic powder until I was ready to saute them.
Usually people just saute them alone, but I wanted to do something crazy. I found a recipe by Rachel Ray that I changed up and made my own.
In a skillet, I sauteed artichoke hearts in olive oil until they were hot. You kinda have to remove the oil after so they aren't dripping, so I placed them between layers of paper towels while I sauteed scallions, sweet onions, fresh garlic, and tomatoes. Then I added the scallops to the mix. Most recipes tell you to saute them until they're slightly browned, however, mine never turned brown. I cooked them until they lost the fishy taste that so many people complain about when cooking scallops. It took about twenty minutes, but will probably take less if I do it again.
Arrange artichoke hearts on a serving dish (or your plate, whichever way you want to do it) and place scallop mixture on top.
The boyfriend loved it! Make sure you have a good shellfish cracker or one of those culinary mallets lol.
Have a wonderful Thursday night!!
Love!!!
Buy lobster claws. Seriously. The claws have a lot of meat in them and taste just as good as the tails. The only difference is that they're much harder to get into. Cook some scallops for the side and you have an awesome meal.
Lobster is actually pretty easy to cook. So if you're looking for something fancy but not that difficult, you should try it! I'll share what I did.
Bring a large pot of slightly salted water to a rolling boil. I added crab/seafood seasoning (powder), cajun seasoning, freshly ground black pepper, and Grill Mates garlic & herb seasoning. Add quartered potatoes (smaller if you use large potatoes). Let them boil for about 10-15 minutes. Throw in small ears of corn. After about 5 minutes add a teaspoon (I just poured some) of Zataran's liquid crab boil. When it is at a rolling boil again, place lobster(s) in the pot. Bring back to boil, cook until bright red (around 10-15 minutes). If you want mushrooms, add these a few minutes before you remove everything because they cook very quickly.
Pretty damn easy, right?
The difficult part was the scallops. They are finicky. I thawed mine and then let them sit in a mixture of melted butter and garlic powder until I was ready to saute them.
Usually people just saute them alone, but I wanted to do something crazy. I found a recipe by Rachel Ray that I changed up and made my own.
In a skillet, I sauteed artichoke hearts in olive oil until they were hot. You kinda have to remove the oil after so they aren't dripping, so I placed them between layers of paper towels while I sauteed scallions, sweet onions, fresh garlic, and tomatoes. Then I added the scallops to the mix. Most recipes tell you to saute them until they're slightly browned, however, mine never turned brown. I cooked them until they lost the fishy taste that so many people complain about when cooking scallops. It took about twenty minutes, but will probably take less if I do it again.
Arrange artichoke hearts on a serving dish (or your plate, whichever way you want to do it) and place scallop mixture on top.
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| Scallops, grape tomatoes, onions, scallions, and artichoke hearts. |
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| Lobster claw with potatoes, shitake (sp?) mushrooms, sweet corn, and scallop mixture. |
Have a wonderful Thursday night!!
Love!!!
Friday, March 16, 2012
Thursday, March 15, 2012
Pt2: Dating peeves
Yesterday I ranted about every day pet peeves. Today, it's dating pet peeves. These are basically deal breakers for me. All are things that I have pissed me off in past relationships, and I refuse to deal with them now or in the future. Don't like it? Move on.
Being straight out rude to my friends/family. I understand people have issues with other people, I do. But let's be nice to those I care about in front of me. Unless they purposely provoke you, pissing me off isn't going to be worth your time. I'm a bitch. You probably know this already, but you will send me into super bitch mode. They were here before you, and chances are they will be here after you. They are part of what has shaped me into who I am, so if you really do care about me you should be thankful for them.
Dropping off the face of the planet. Dear god, what don't guys understand that this is NO WAY to keep a girl interested. You are all awesome and wanna hang out all the time, and then out of nowhere you don't talk to me or show up in social settings. I've had so many guys get mad when I lose interest because of this. Do you expect me to just sit around waiting on you? Sorry, if you act like you aren't interested anymore, I won't be. I understand things come up, shit happens. Give me some indication you're still interested. Don't wait until I'm talking to someone else to decide to tell me you want to be with me. I'm not going to come running back. I'll be your friend and that's about it.
Those stupid flirt/dating apps. OMG!!! This caused a major rift a little over a year ago, and I will not compromise on it. You're seeing someone. How's about we don't use a singles app to flirt. If you don't want to flirt with me, leave! That is the equivalent of flirting with other girls in person. I saw what was said the last time this happened, and let's just say he had every right to hide it from me. That's a form of cheating. If you can't show me because you know it will bother me, you shouldn't be doing it. I stop "talking" to all other guys when I'm with someone, why can't you do the same? If you can do it, I can do it. And I'm worse. Having a vagina usually means the person is a lot better at flirting and teasing and whatnot. And trust me, I know how. Let's not cause super bitch here.
Not giving me girl time. I need time to be a girl. Don't get me wrong I like spending time with you, but I go a lil nuts when I don't get to see my girls. They keep me grounded. And it makes you seem clingy if you don't spend time with the guys. Clingy is bad. I get resentful and well my girls get mad. Not fun to deal with.
Arguing about stupid shit. Yeah if I have to explain this one, you're hopeless.
Not going on dates. This is what has helped kill ummmmm all of my relationships. God, take to me to dinner every now and then, show me off. If you're ashamed and don't want to, leave. I don't need gourmet food to be happy. Hell, take me to McDonald's but make it fun. Fun is all that matters. Take me dancing. This gets you points. I love to go dancing. Picnic, walks, sitting under the stars in the middle of nowhere, etc etc etc. There are SOOOO many things you can do.
Ugh I have a lot more, but these are my major ones. The rest I can deal with to a point. Sadly, these are pretty universal but a lot of guys do them all... Show me one that doesn't do at least one on a regular basis... Maybe I'm too picky, but I know one day someone will be able to live up to this. I'll be patient. Ish. lol
Notice I make no mention of ex's? I don't have a problem with ex's as long as they don't cause a problem for us. I still talk to most of mine, they were friends before we dated. Why can't we be friends after?
I gotta get out of the apartment, it's too pretty outside.
Beware the Ides of March!
Love!!!
Being straight out rude to my friends/family. I understand people have issues with other people, I do. But let's be nice to those I care about in front of me. Unless they purposely provoke you, pissing me off isn't going to be worth your time. I'm a bitch. You probably know this already, but you will send me into super bitch mode. They were here before you, and chances are they will be here after you. They are part of what has shaped me into who I am, so if you really do care about me you should be thankful for them.
Dropping off the face of the planet. Dear god, what don't guys understand that this is NO WAY to keep a girl interested. You are all awesome and wanna hang out all the time, and then out of nowhere you don't talk to me or show up in social settings. I've had so many guys get mad when I lose interest because of this. Do you expect me to just sit around waiting on you? Sorry, if you act like you aren't interested anymore, I won't be. I understand things come up, shit happens. Give me some indication you're still interested. Don't wait until I'm talking to someone else to decide to tell me you want to be with me. I'm not going to come running back. I'll be your friend and that's about it.
Those stupid flirt/dating apps. OMG!!! This caused a major rift a little over a year ago, and I will not compromise on it. You're seeing someone. How's about we don't use a singles app to flirt. If you don't want to flirt with me, leave! That is the equivalent of flirting with other girls in person. I saw what was said the last time this happened, and let's just say he had every right to hide it from me. That's a form of cheating. If you can't show me because you know it will bother me, you shouldn't be doing it. I stop "talking" to all other guys when I'm with someone, why can't you do the same? If you can do it, I can do it. And I'm worse. Having a vagina usually means the person is a lot better at flirting and teasing and whatnot. And trust me, I know how. Let's not cause super bitch here.
Not giving me girl time. I need time to be a girl. Don't get me wrong I like spending time with you, but I go a lil nuts when I don't get to see my girls. They keep me grounded. And it makes you seem clingy if you don't spend time with the guys. Clingy is bad. I get resentful and well my girls get mad. Not fun to deal with.
Arguing about stupid shit. Yeah if I have to explain this one, you're hopeless.
Not going on dates. This is what has helped kill ummmmm all of my relationships. God, take to me to dinner every now and then, show me off. If you're ashamed and don't want to, leave. I don't need gourmet food to be happy. Hell, take me to McDonald's but make it fun. Fun is all that matters. Take me dancing. This gets you points. I love to go dancing. Picnic, walks, sitting under the stars in the middle of nowhere, etc etc etc. There are SOOOO many things you can do.
Ugh I have a lot more, but these are my major ones. The rest I can deal with to a point. Sadly, these are pretty universal but a lot of guys do them all... Show me one that doesn't do at least one on a regular basis... Maybe I'm too picky, but I know one day someone will be able to live up to this. I'll be patient. Ish. lol
Notice I make no mention of ex's? I don't have a problem with ex's as long as they don't cause a problem for us. I still talk to most of mine, they were friends before we dated. Why can't we be friends after?
I gotta get out of the apartment, it's too pretty outside.
Beware the Ides of March!
Love!!!
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
Pet Peeves pt1
I have begun to realize that many things bother me. Big surprise there if you know me, right? So, I decided I would make a list. Just so ya know, you know why I get aggravated with you or something lol. There are actually two categories: things anyone can do and things the person I'm dating can do. Yep, I have a whole other set of things for that one. Here goes nothin! Oh, and feedback is more than welcome on this one.
Hand washing. Having a mother in the medical field and having worked with food and blood, this is a huge thing for me! I don't wash my hands every other minute or anything, but when you go to the restroom (especially a public one), wash your damn hands. There are sooooo many germs and bacteria in restrooms! You can even pick up STIs *gasp!* Okay maybe not with your hands, unless you like to wipe your hands on toilet seats, but still...
Not brushing your teeth/showering. Um, you're gonna stink. I don't want to smell it. Plus, you look all greasy and gross. I seem to have a thing about personal hygiene. Don't get me wrong, if you just plan on sitting at your house all day or only making a quick cigarette trip I can understand not showering (unless you reek). Hell, I do that occasionally. Please don't come into my place of employment or a social setting without at least a quick shower and some mouthwash. Oh, and deodorant. BO just disgusts me.
Digging into parts of my personal life that are none of your business. Unless I share it with you, let's not discuss it shall we? It's personal for a reason. If I do discuss it with you, that doesn't mean I want everyone to know about it, so let's not bring it up in public. It's just bad manners.
Disgusting eating habits. Don't get me wrong, eat all the strange food you want. I do. But how about we use utensils with foods that need it? And don't chomp. I don't want to see it while your chewing. Gross. When people shovel food in their mouth, it disturbs me. How can you enjoy what you're eating? This one is kinda a dating thing too. Please don't be gross or impolite on a date, I WILL NOT go on another date with you.
Bad driving habits. Please go at least the speed limit, but not way over it either. And know the right-a-ways. If someone gets to the stop sign before you, they have precedence. Ugh, and not paying attention to traffic lights. I may run a yellow light every now and then, not purposely, but I stop at reds and don't go until it's green. I was almost hit head on last night by a guy who wasn't paying attention and decided when my light turned green to go across, he could go left across my lane. My heart almost stopped. Thankfully the jackass realized his light was still red and stopped in time to miss me. I can't really bitch about cellphone usage while driving, because I do it, but if you can't drive and do it. Don't. I prefer if people don't do it at night or in construction/heavy traffic though. I try to avoid those just because the risks are much greater. Be safe.
Telling me my beliefs are wrong. Big deal to me, this one. (ha, Yoda sounding) Everyone has their own beliefs on religion, politics, education, etc, etc, etc. I will respect the fact that we may not agree, please do the same. If you want to have a discussion or debate, I'm always up for that, but do not tell me that I'm wrong just because you don't believe in the same things I do. I was raised to think for myself (thank you mommy and daddy!), and our country was founded on the idea of free thinking. I don't understand why people think everyone must believe the same things. Where would we be? There would be no variety in life. Hell, why would you even talk to other people? You would know their opinions already, so why ask?
Treating animals badly. Ugh!!! Domestic animals usually do not know how to fend for themselves. Take care of them. Don't beat them, starve them, or be a horrible pet owner in general. If you can't take care of your pet, find someone who can and will. I understand most of us work, so you can't spend every moment with them. It happens. But love on them. I take Tank to the dog park as often as I can so he gets exercise and meets new dogs, since I live in an apartment. He also gets doggy playdates occasionally. The ex has been good about letting me bring him over to see his big sister Roxi, they both need it. Choke collars. &$%^#^%$*%!!!! Please do not use them unless you know how. They are not good for dogs to begin with, but in the hands of an inexperienced person they are dangerous to the poor animal. They are for training purposes. They are not a substitute for a real collar or harness. How about you let me put that around your neck and pull you around for a day or two and let those spikes dig into your neck??? No? Then don't do it to your dog.
Okay, this was longer than I expected. I'll have to do the dating one separate. I don't want to bog you guys down. I just needed to get this out lol.
What are your pet peeves? Anything you would add to my reasonings?
Happy Pi Day, Hump Day, and Steak and a BJ Day!!!
Love!!
Hand washing. Having a mother in the medical field and having worked with food and blood, this is a huge thing for me! I don't wash my hands every other minute or anything, but when you go to the restroom (especially a public one), wash your damn hands. There are sooooo many germs and bacteria in restrooms! You can even pick up STIs *gasp!* Okay maybe not with your hands, unless you like to wipe your hands on toilet seats, but still...
Not brushing your teeth/showering. Um, you're gonna stink. I don't want to smell it. Plus, you look all greasy and gross. I seem to have a thing about personal hygiene. Don't get me wrong, if you just plan on sitting at your house all day or only making a quick cigarette trip I can understand not showering (unless you reek). Hell, I do that occasionally. Please don't come into my place of employment or a social setting without at least a quick shower and some mouthwash. Oh, and deodorant. BO just disgusts me.
Digging into parts of my personal life that are none of your business. Unless I share it with you, let's not discuss it shall we? It's personal for a reason. If I do discuss it with you, that doesn't mean I want everyone to know about it, so let's not bring it up in public. It's just bad manners.
Disgusting eating habits. Don't get me wrong, eat all the strange food you want. I do. But how about we use utensils with foods that need it? And don't chomp. I don't want to see it while your chewing. Gross. When people shovel food in their mouth, it disturbs me. How can you enjoy what you're eating? This one is kinda a dating thing too. Please don't be gross or impolite on a date, I WILL NOT go on another date with you.
Bad driving habits. Please go at least the speed limit, but not way over it either. And know the right-a-ways. If someone gets to the stop sign before you, they have precedence. Ugh, and not paying attention to traffic lights. I may run a yellow light every now and then, not purposely, but I stop at reds and don't go until it's green. I was almost hit head on last night by a guy who wasn't paying attention and decided when my light turned green to go across, he could go left across my lane. My heart almost stopped. Thankfully the jackass realized his light was still red and stopped in time to miss me. I can't really bitch about cellphone usage while driving, because I do it, but if you can't drive and do it. Don't. I prefer if people don't do it at night or in construction/heavy traffic though. I try to avoid those just because the risks are much greater. Be safe.
Telling me my beliefs are wrong. Big deal to me, this one. (ha, Yoda sounding) Everyone has their own beliefs on religion, politics, education, etc, etc, etc. I will respect the fact that we may not agree, please do the same. If you want to have a discussion or debate, I'm always up for that, but do not tell me that I'm wrong just because you don't believe in the same things I do. I was raised to think for myself (thank you mommy and daddy!), and our country was founded on the idea of free thinking. I don't understand why people think everyone must believe the same things. Where would we be? There would be no variety in life. Hell, why would you even talk to other people? You would know their opinions already, so why ask?
Treating animals badly. Ugh!!! Domestic animals usually do not know how to fend for themselves. Take care of them. Don't beat them, starve them, or be a horrible pet owner in general. If you can't take care of your pet, find someone who can and will. I understand most of us work, so you can't spend every moment with them. It happens. But love on them. I take Tank to the dog park as often as I can so he gets exercise and meets new dogs, since I live in an apartment. He also gets doggy playdates occasionally. The ex has been good about letting me bring him over to see his big sister Roxi, they both need it. Choke collars. &$%^#^%$*%!!!! Please do not use them unless you know how. They are not good for dogs to begin with, but in the hands of an inexperienced person they are dangerous to the poor animal. They are for training purposes. They are not a substitute for a real collar or harness. How about you let me put that around your neck and pull you around for a day or two and let those spikes dig into your neck??? No? Then don't do it to your dog.
Okay, this was longer than I expected. I'll have to do the dating one separate. I don't want to bog you guys down. I just needed to get this out lol.
What are your pet peeves? Anything you would add to my reasonings?
Happy Pi Day, Hump Day, and Steak and a BJ Day!!!
Love!!
Monday, March 12, 2012
What's New with you? Well, ya see this one time...
It has been a crazy month or so it seems. I lost my job last month, but hey! I found a new one and I start a week from today, which kicks ass, especially since it's at my favorite place. Tank and I lost Cleo a few weeks ago, which has been hard on both of us but him the most. We're learning how to deal with just the two of us: walks, dog park, just chillin' watching tv. Thankfully, my friends are the best and have been my wall anytime I need it.
While I haven't been working, I have been staying busy. I've been spending a lot of time with the girls and the new boy. I've been trying to catch up on my reading, but that's difficult to do with a perpetual puppy in the house lol. I've been taking a lot of pictures of everything when I can.
CC's 23rd birthday was earlier this month. We went out to Jazzmo's in Bricktown. If I could afford it, I'd eat there all the time. It's cajun style cuisine. Instead of opting for my usual of salmon or catfish, I went out on a limb and ordered chicken fried alligator. It was good, but really didn't have a distinct flavor which was disappointing. You know the old saying "It tastes like chicken"? Yeah, well it did... The gator bites I nabbed from Trulock were great though!
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| CC, AE, and I at O'Connell's karaoke. It's a tradition now. |
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| CC's birthday at Jazzmo's. Love that place! She and I shared oysters, while everyone shared entrees lol. |
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| Tank at the dog park. He loves little dogs. |
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| Sometimes they can be a bit feisty though. |
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| "Hey, whatcha doin? I wanna play!" |
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| "You're a bit bigger than me..." |
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| Such a happy boy, I love him to pieces. |
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| Oddly enough, he latched onto the new boy quite quickly. |
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| Yeah, he didn't like me taking this picture lol. |
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| SUSHI!!! Bestie, my old roommate and I had dinner together tonight. Our favorite food EVA! |
I've been doing a lot of cooking too. Sometime this week, I'm going to some random foreign food market in the metro with Logan. I'm excited to try even more new things. I'll even take pictures for you guys, not like you didn't expect that though.
Well, off to have a beer or two to end a pretty damn good day. Happy Monday!!
Love!!!
Riddle me This?
So while I've been getting ready for the new job (EEEEKKK!!!), I have neglected you. I have a whole slue of updates that I have planned for tomorrow complete with photo documentation. Until then, I leave you with this lil gem.
1. What’s your favorite pizza topping(s)?
EVERYTHING!!! Seriously, the more toppings the better. However, I miss being able to make my own. Yep, worked a pizza place for nearly 4 years so I ended up with my own creation. (not that that's surprising) Canadian bacon, bacon, Italian sausage, black olives, mushrooms, with ranch baked in with the marinara on a deep dish. Fucking amazing.
2. If you could re-do your wedding, what would you do differently, and why?
Um, yeah not married. How about not having to pay for a damn thing if I ever decide to? Oh and a big, poofy dress and killer heels. That's about it.
3. Cats or dogs?
Both. Currently just have Tank, but I'm thinking about getting him a cat friend. Dogs are fun and extremely loyal. Cats you have to earn their respect. I really can't pick just one. I grew up with both.
4. What is your favorite thing to make for dinner? And can I have the recipe?
Anything random. I really liked cooking that octopus, it just takes FOREVER. I guess fish and seafood are my favorite. Or mashed potatoes. Love those!
5. What is your cocktail of choice?
Cherry Vodka Sour or Bloody Mary, oddly enough I don't like vodka. I don't know why I like vodka drinks. Tequila's great too. Anything with tequila is a go for me! OOOO and wineritas mix two of my favorites: wine and tequila. HEAVEN!
6. How many scars do you have on you, and what are they from?
A metric shit ton. Yeah, I think that's about right. Mostly from chicken pox as a kid. Although I do fall a lot and end up with scars. I have one on my ass from getting a cyst removed from my tailbone. Yes, I have a scar on my ass. No, I didn't have a tail. Why would you think that?
7. If you could replace any one thing in your house right now, what would you replace?
The light bulbs, half of them are out. I'm too short to reach them and don't have a chair or stool to stand on. Oh, and that leaky faucet in my tub. It's just annoying. Thankfully I don't pay water at my apartment.
8. What do you usually eat for breakfast?
Breakfast? What's that? Lol, it depends. I love breakfast food and tend to just do bacon and eggs or cereal. If I were patient enough I'd make pancakes but when it's that early I just wanna eat!
9. What’s your favorite flavor of Girl Scout cookies?
Thin Mints and Samoas. I actually have a box of Samoas in my freezer at the moment. I ordered Thin Mints this year but the crazy woman never brought them to me... I want my $7 dollars back...
10.Winter or summer?
Summer=clothing optional!!! And being on the river with booze. Which also means clothing optional. Just ask Sarcasm Goddess about naked pool beer pong.
11. How many pieces of jewelry are you typically wearing on a regular day?
9. I had 11 but took two of them out. Yes, SG I took out 2 piercings. They kinda got ripped out. Give ya two guesses which ones!!! Lol
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Bout Time I Cooked that Damn Octopus!!
I've had this tentacled THING in my freezer for like a month now. You know, the things that live in the ocean and have suckers on their tentacles? Yeah, one of those. I kinda bought it on a whim. Had no idea how to cook it or if I would be able to eat it after I attempted to cook it. I looked all over the internet for a recipe that sounded like something I would make and enjoy (and that I could share with my friends, cause who wants to eat an octopus experiment alone? Not this girl!). I found some decent ones, even some that I may try next time, but not one that made me go: THAT ONE!
Soooo you know me, I just decided to wing it. Once I got the balls to, of course. And someone who was brave enough to try my experiment (Cue Miss Logan lol).
I made Octopus Parmigiana. Sounds fancy, right? Considering how long it took to prepare the damned thing, yeah it pretty much was. Prepare the octopus, not the whole meal. Dear god, it takes hours to get an octopus fit for consumption....
The prep actually depends on how large the octopus is and what you want to end up cooking it in, so I'm going to link you to the page I used as my starting point. Since I was doin it up Italiana-style, my "nest" of herbs consisted of the following:
When it says that the octopus will absorb the flavor, it does. To a point. I think my pot I baked it in was too large so the herbs were quite spread out. This entire process (blanching and braising) alone took about 3.5 hours... If you get a large octopus, it will take longer.
On to the easier part.
For my sauce:
You have to marinade the octopus, as well. I coated it with the above herb mixture, some olive oil, and some Italian bread crumbs. Throw it in a skillet until the breading mixture starts to brown, then put in an oven at 500 degrees with mozzarella and parmesan cheese (or whatever types you prefer), and bake for about 5 minutes.
I put mine over egg noodles, but the type really isn't important. What is important is that it was AMAZING!!! We ate the shit out of it. We barely had enough to leave the boys any. Well, one off the boys any way since he asked, the other missed out (lmfao!).
I do have to say cleaning the octopus after braising it was disgusting. Like most animals, there is a layer of fatty tissue between the skin (or outer membrane) and it must be removed. I am not a squeamish girl, but when I first started cleaning it I was a bit unnerved. When I got over the initial shock it was quite fun. Yes, I like playing with gross, mushy, gooey things at times.
It was sooo much fun cooking this!! I recommend buying more than one octopus if you are trying to feed more than two people. This was a little smaller than we though at 1.5 pounds. Next time I'm going to try the Mexican soup or Greek salad I saw when looking for recipes. They sounded yummy but the ingredients seemed a bit more expensive than I can afford at the moment.
I hope you guys enjoyed this. I'm off to finish the first season of Game of Thrones and then bed.
Love!!!
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| He was kinda cute lol |
Soooo you know me, I just decided to wing it. Once I got the balls to, of course. And someone who was brave enough to try my experiment (Cue Miss Logan lol).
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| Off with his head! Yeah, don't eat that part. |
I made Octopus Parmigiana. Sounds fancy, right? Considering how long it took to prepare the damned thing, yeah it pretty much was. Prepare the octopus, not the whole meal. Dear god, it takes hours to get an octopus fit for consumption....
The prep actually depends on how large the octopus is and what you want to end up cooking it in, so I'm going to link you to the page I used as my starting point. Since I was doin it up Italiana-style, my "nest" of herbs consisted of the following:
- dried basil (crushed)
- chopped rosemary
- chopped parsley
- chopped thyme
- chopped garlic
- ground black pepper
- sea salt
- (I also added some random stuff I add to everything: paprika and greek seasoning, but that kinda veers away from the theme I have going here)
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| Here's what the bugger looked like after braising. |
When it says that the octopus will absorb the flavor, it does. To a point. I think my pot I baked it in was too large so the herbs were quite spread out. This entire process (blanching and braising) alone took about 3.5 hours... If you get a large octopus, it will take longer.
On to the easier part.
For my sauce:
- 1-2 cans of crushed tomatoes (consistence of these are awesome for marinara)
- same herbs as above
- diced onion
You have to marinade the octopus, as well. I coated it with the above herb mixture, some olive oil, and some Italian bread crumbs. Throw it in a skillet until the breading mixture starts to brown, then put in an oven at 500 degrees with mozzarella and parmesan cheese (or whatever types you prefer), and bake for about 5 minutes.
I put mine over egg noodles, but the type really isn't important. What is important is that it was AMAZING!!! We ate the shit out of it. We barely had enough to leave the boys any. Well, one off the boys any way since he asked, the other missed out (lmfao!).
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| The cheese makes it look a bit gross, but it looks great in person. Promise. |
I do have to say cleaning the octopus after braising it was disgusting. Like most animals, there is a layer of fatty tissue between the skin (or outer membrane) and it must be removed. I am not a squeamish girl, but when I first started cleaning it I was a bit unnerved. When I got over the initial shock it was quite fun. Yes, I like playing with gross, mushy, gooey things at times.
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| Partially naked octopus! |
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| Naked!!!! |
I hope you guys enjoyed this. I'm off to finish the first season of Game of Thrones and then bed.
Love!!!
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