Thursday, March 15, 2012

Pt2: Dating peeves

Yesterday I ranted about every day pet peeves.  Today, it's dating pet peeves.  These are basically deal breakers for me.  All are things that I have pissed me off in past relationships, and I refuse to deal with them now or in the future.  Don't like it?  Move on.

Being straight out rude to my friends/family.  I understand people have issues with other people, I do.  But let's be nice to those I care about in front of me.  Unless they purposely provoke you, pissing me off isn't going to be worth your time.  I'm a bitch.  You probably know this already, but you will send me into super bitch mode.  They were here before you, and chances are they will be here after you.  They are part of what has shaped me into who I am, so if you really do care about me you should be thankful for them.

Dropping off the face of the planet.  Dear god, what don't guys understand that this is NO WAY to keep a girl interested.  You are all awesome and wanna hang out all the time, and then out of nowhere you don't talk to me or show up in social settings.  I've had so many guys get mad when I lose interest because of this.  Do you expect me to just sit around waiting on you?  Sorry, if you act like you aren't interested anymore, I won't be.  I understand things come up, shit happens.  Give me some indication you're still interested.  Don't wait until I'm talking to someone else to decide to tell me you want to be with me.  I'm not going to come running back.  I'll be your friend and that's about it.

Those stupid flirt/dating apps.  OMG!!!  This caused a major rift a little over a year ago, and I will not compromise on it.  You're seeing someone.  How's about we don't use a singles app to flirt.  If you don't want to flirt with me, leave!  That is the equivalent of flirting with other girls in person.  I saw what was said the last time this happened, and let's just say he had every right to hide it from me.  That's a form of cheating.  If you can't show me because you know it will bother me, you shouldn't be doing it.  I stop "talking" to all other guys when I'm with someone, why can't you do the same?  If you can do it, I can do it.  And I'm worse.  Having a vagina usually means the person is a lot better at flirting and teasing and whatnot.  And trust me, I know how.  Let's not cause super bitch here.

Not giving me girl time.  I need time to be a girl.  Don't get me wrong I like spending time with you, but I go a lil nuts when I don't get to see my girls.  They keep me grounded.  And it makes you seem clingy if you don't spend time with the guys.  Clingy is bad.  I get resentful and well my girls get mad.  Not fun to deal with.

Arguing about stupid shit.  Yeah if I have to explain this one, you're hopeless.

Not going on dates.  This is what has helped kill ummmmm all of my relationships.  God, take to me to dinner every now and then, show me off.  If you're ashamed and don't want to, leave.  I don't need gourmet food to be happy.  Hell, take me to McDonald's but make it fun.  Fun is all that matters.  Take me dancing.  This gets you points.  I love to go dancing.  Picnic, walks, sitting under the stars in the middle of nowhere, etc etc etc.  There are SOOOO many things you can do.

Ugh I have a lot more, but these are my major ones.  The rest I can deal with to a point.  Sadly, these are pretty universal but a lot of guys do them all...  Show me one that doesn't do at least one on a regular basis...  Maybe I'm too picky, but I know one day someone will be able to live up to this.  I'll be patient.  Ish.  lol

Notice I make no mention of ex's?  I don't have a problem with ex's as long as they don't cause a problem for us.  I still talk to most of mine, they were friends before we dated.  Why can't we be friends after?

I gotta get out of the apartment, it's too pretty outside.

Beware the Ides of March!



*E-Dome* said...

AMEN. It's like the ten commandments for dating

Jaimie said...

Tht dropping off one, I'm that way with EVERYONE ... I cannot STAND it when friends, family, and everyone else will be friendly and hangout and what not... And then you don't hear from them forever until they need something or you run into them somewhere and they want to blame YOU for not keeping touch... Seriously?! You didn't call me either JerkFace!! I have a life and it doesn't revolve around you! Uuuuugh serious bitch mode button , lol.

Miss Allie said...

Jaimie: I don't so much mind it with friends, I get busy too. E-Dome and I went months without talking and have no idea why really, it just happened. Family it bothers me though. Yeah, the main one I was referring to did that exact thing! Except I did try to get ahold of him a few times but he never responded so I said screw it lol.

The app thing is my biggest issue though. If you can't say it in front of me, it shouldn't be said at all. You shouldn't be flirting like that anyway if you want to be with me.

E-Dome: I have a few more sadly, I just figured these were the most important lol.